I feel like I’m losing my mind.
Every day he comes home from work, kicks off his shoes, sits down in front of the computer, and basically becomes part of the chair.
I tell him, “Dinner’s ready.” He says, “After this round.”
I tell him, “Go take a shower.” He says, “In a minute.”
I tell him, “Let’s go to bed.” He says, “You go first.”
So I go to sleep.
Then I wake up at 2 a.m. to use the bathroom and he’s STILL there, typing like crazy in the dark. The only light in the room is from his screen, lighting up his face like something out of a horror movie.
I ask him what time it is.
He says, “Almost done. This game is about to end.”
This game.
There is always another game.
Yesterday I finally snapped a little and stood next to him waiting for him to finish. He looked up and said, “Why are you standing there?”
I said, “I just want to see what’s so interesting.”
So I stood there for 20 minutes.
He played for 20 minutes.
And he didn’t say a single word to me the entire time.
I’m not an unreasonable person.
I work too. I’m tired too. I also want to come home and talk to someone, watch a show together, or even just sit on our phones in the same room.
But right now, we talk less in a whole day than he talks to his teammates on voice chat in one match.
Last weekend, I asked him to go see a movie with me.
He said, “Weekends are too crowded. Next week.”
Next week came.
He said, “There’s a tournament livestream this weekend. Next week.”
Next week.
How many “next weeks” are there?
I’ve tried talking to him calmly. No yelling, no fighting. I just said, “Can you play a little less and spend more time with me?”
He agreed very easily: “Sure, sure. I’ll play one hour less every day.”
And he did.
He just went to bed one hour later.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
If I argue, he says I’m being dramatic.
If I ignore it, I feel like I’m in a relationship with the back of his head.
Breaking up feels too extreme, because he’s actually nice to me in other ways.
But what kind of “nice” is this?
Nice means I stare at his back every night?
So I want to ask:
Has anyone else dealt with this?
How did you fix it?
And be honest…
Would I be totally insane if I unplugged the computer while he’s in the middle of a team fight?