I’ve been with my boyfriend for six and a half years. Recently, we broke up after an argument.
That day, I asked him to take me somewhere to handle some errands. He was in a hurry to go back and sleep. Although he wasn’t happy about it, he still agreed. On the way back, it started raining. I complained about why he didn’t keep an umbrella in the car. He said he would put one there in the future. I couldn’t help repeating it again, and he suddenly became emotional and said, “Then don’t ride in my car anymore. Ride your own bike.”
(I admit that I tend to lecture him sometimes and I have some anxious traits. Lately, he seems especially irritable and gets angry over small things.)
Unluckily, he was riding the bike without a helmet and we got fined by the police. That made him even angrier. After we got back, the argument escalated. He said the fight was entirely my fault and asked me to pay the fine for him. He lost control of his emotions and even told me to “get out.”
(We just graduated. He has rented a place, and I temporarily left my luggage at his place and planned to stay there for a few days. We had lived together for two years before and often argued over daily matters.)
At that moment, I felt angry and hurt. I also felt that his emotions had been very unstable recently and that he was becoming more impatient with me, so I packed up my things and left.
Now we are in a breakup state, and he hasn’t contacted me.
We’ve been together for a long time, and normally he treats me quite well. I just feel that he can be somewhat petty. But this time, his reaction felt excessive and very different from our previous arguments. I don’t know whether I should let this relationship go completely or give it another chance.
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Hello Anonymous
You shouldn’t think he doesn’t love you because of his yelling, you should pay more attention to his emotional changes, after all, you have been together for a lot of time for 6 years.
Caring more about his emotions and listening more to his expressions is what you should do.